Dear Snarky – My Twin Won’t Let Me Get Botox

Dear dear_snarky_logo-1Snarky,

 I’m 45 years old and I have an identical twin sister. I’ve been thinking for a long time about having some cosmetic surgery procedures done and I’ve scheduled appointments for Botox injections and Restylane filler.

 When my twin found out she threw a fit! She said I can’t have the procedures done because then we won’t look alike. She screamed at me that she doesn’t want to be the “old” twin. She even went so far as to tell me that I should either pay for her to have the work done (since she can’t afford it) or not get it done at all because we need to “match.”

 I’ve always been close with my sister and respect her feelings, but I really think we’ve outgrown looking exactly alike. Snarky, what would you do if you were me?

 Signed, Botox Twin

 Dear Botox,

 Do not walk, but run to your Botox appointment. You, as a middle-aged woman, have every right to do whatever you want to your appearance without getting your twin sister’s permission.

 I mean seriously, do you two have the same hairstyle, weigh the same, have the same workout routine, and always wear the same SPF or even drink from straws? All this affects how you age and look. There is no way you and your sister were going to be mirror images forever. To be honest the whole things creeps me out a little.

 I also think this could be less about looking alike and more about the fact that she’s jealous you’re treating yourself to some cosmetic procedures. That said you have no obligation to pay for your sister’s Botox and she was a brat to insist that you should.

 So, go ahead and do what you want. It’s called being an individual. Embrace it.

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8 thoughts on “Dear Snarky – My Twin Won’t Let Me Get Botox

  1. TWIN MOM says:

    You are right Snarky, that is creepy! As a mom to twin girls I’m constantly all about them expressing their individuality. I can’t imagine my girls being 45 and still wanting to look alike. Forget about botox some $ needs to be spent on therapy.

  2. Old Twin says:

    I also have an identical twin sister and due to just what you wrote now at 56 years of age we look similar, but not exactly alike. I live in Florida and have a lot more wrinkles than my sister and my sister weighs more than me and has beautiful blonde hair where I just went for and have gone almost totally gray. I thank God everyday for my sister, but I’m glad both of us never had the desire to always look alike.

  3. Carla says:

    A salon I used to work in had clients that were identical twin sisters. They were in their late fifties, and they had the exact same hair style and even wore exact matching outfits every time they came in. It was bizarre.

  4. Julie O. says:

    I think you hit the nail on the head Snarky when you said the other twin was jealous. Gag, on wanting to look just like your sister when you’re 45!

  5. rupiedupie says:

    Ahhh yah. I’m a twin. If I were in that same situation (and had been told to avoid cosmetic enhancements) I’d probably slap my sisters face on each cheek to test if she were 1) lucid and aware of her gross overstep and 2) responsive to the natural swelling and tightening that would occur from the injury.
    I think the jealous twin shouldn’t be looking to control another person…so much as she should be concerned about the bitterness that oozes from her. Therapy anyone?
    P.S. There is absolutely nothing wrong with natural aging. And equally, there is nothing wrong with cosmetic procedures.

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