Dear Snarky
My daughter and her new husband are expecting their first baby and everyone is thrilled. My daughter has a job she loves but there are two bad apples that are making things horrible for my daughter.
A grown ass women (34) who has two kids of her own and a college age troublemaker. Both of which my daughter has considered good friends for years.
The things they are saying behind my daughters back are crazy! I won’t get into the nitty gritty but it’s basically a toxic work environment at this point.
The problem is that we are planning a baby celebration party next month and some people are telling us to invite these two to be “the bigger person.” We do not want these two bitches (excuse my language) at the party.
What’s your opinion on this? Should we invite them or not? They would probably not show up which would make my daughter even more upset. She is heartbroken over this. By the way, my daughter was in the older bad apples wedding so they have been like sisters. What are your thoughts?
Signed
Tired of bad apples
Dear Bad Apples,
My first response upon reading the letter was there no way you should invite those bitches to such a special event in your daughter’s life. I think their mere presence would tarnish the party. Also, sometimes Team “Be the Bigger Person” can translate to Team “I’m Actively Enabling People Who are Huge A-Holes to Me.”
There’s also a chance if you do invite them that your daughter will probably be nervous the entire party. As in living in fear that they’re going to be rude or do something to ruin the event when she should be enjoying being the guest of honor.
Now, upon further reflection my question is if your daughter didn’t invite these shrews to the event would they then make her life even more miserable at work as a form of payback?
If the answer is yes then you need to make sure you rebrand the party as a family event. So, if they attempt to stir up drama and bully your daughter over not being invited she can tell them that it was just “family.”
I’m so sorry your daughter is having to deal with friends turning on her during this special time in her life. But she needs to stay focused on her baby and all the joy that is coming her way.
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