Dear Snarky – My Best Friend Is a Mean Girl Mom

Dear Snarky,

 I have recently broken off a longstanding friendship with a woman because her daughter is a total  mean girl bitch to my daughter (both our girls go to the same middle school). My “friend” thinks I’m being unreasonable and whatever troubles our girls are having I should just let them work it out. She doesn’t think I should let it impact our 10+ year friendship.

 I think that is a bunch of B.S. The fact that her child is so horrible to my daughter that even teachers have said something about it and my friend, her mother, does nothing is enough of a reason for me to end our friendship.

Do you think I’m being quote “unreasonable” or do you think I’m doing the right thing?

 Signed, Family First

Dear Family,

 Honestly, I’m probably the wrong person to help you because I’m a first class grudge holder. If a friend’s child was consistently mean to my daughter I would terminate that friendship before you could say WTH? I think it would be not only disloyal but also harmful to your daughter for her to see her mother, her number one advocate on planet Earth, still being all nicey-nicey to the mom of the girl terrorizing her.

 I believe you’re doing the right thing and because I’m on roll I’ll even hypothesize that a mean girl is a reflection of her family. So, I would want nothing to do with the child or the parents. I know some people are going to say both of us are overreacting but when it comes to my family I have zero tolerance for people who treat any member like crap.

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5 thoughts on “Dear Snarky – My Best Friend Is a Mean Girl Mom

  1. Tammy L. says:

    Yes, yes and YES – ditch the friend! I agree with Snarky the mean girl is a reflection of her upbringing and your friend and her daughter sound horrible. I wouldn’t want to be friends with anyone whose kid inflicted pain upon my child.

  2. Jolane says:

    Heaven help any person who hurts one of my kids! You are correct to drop the mom. She certainly didn’t seem to think she needed to yank a knot in her kids tail, so…she is part of the problem. You did good ending that relationship!

  3. Colleen says:

    Same thing happened to us. My husband and I just slowly pulled away from the girls parents. They thought their daughter was “sweet.”

  4. Kathleen Salceies says:

    My heart goes out for any children that are bullied or treated shamefully by other children. My five year old grand daughter came to live with us before she even started school. I was overjoyed when I found out that there were two girls her she across the street for her to meet and play with. It turned out to be a nightmare. The girls would come over like a hit squad going through her toys breaking stuff and leaving. Some days they’d go over to their backyards. One cool Fall day my grand daughter came home soaking wet! I asked her what had happened. The girls wanted to play squirrel and they wanted to get rid of it so they hosed my grand daughter and dumped water bottles on her. Bless her heart when I told her to go get in a warm tub and change out of her wet clothes she cried that she still wanted to play with them… I had a chance to talk to one of the moms and she said she had suggested that her daughter come over here and ask Katie to play. Her daughter told her she didn’t like her and that she liked playing with dolls.Her mother stood there and told her that was fine, she didn’t have to play with anyone she dudn’t Like.You are very correct that most mean kids learn from their families. My grand daughter moved on and we had many talks about treating everyone with respect. She moved past the mean kids and graduates in 3 weeks. It really amazes me how cruel children can be and how many parents condone it.

  5. Janelle Anderson says:

    Protecting yourself from badly behaved people does not mean you are holding a grudge. Protecting yourself means you have boundaries.

    Allowing girls to be mistreated by their girl-friends sets them up to tolerate abusive boyfriends and husbands later.

    We must take a step back from those who treat us poorly. I applaud the mom who took a step back from her adult friend because of her daughter’s unrepentant behavior. The mom owes her daughter her first loyalty.

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