Dear Snarky – More Cheer Mama Drama

Screen Shot 2015-04-24 at 9.53.02 AMDear Snarky,

 My daughter is a varsity cheerleader at her high school and why that is great I’m afraid most of the cheer moms now hate me.

 The reason is I got sick of the flyer mom clique acting all high and mighty because their daughters get thrown in the air. My daughter is a base and these moms make snide remarks all the time because they think the bases, who they call the “big girls” “just stand there” and hold the “real cheerleaders.”

 So. Over. It.

 Without strong girls as the base their kids wouldn’t get thrown in the air or worse could be dropped. So after a whole year of putting up with this at the cheer banquet I jokingly mentioned to one mom that she better shut up or just maybe my daughter wouldn’t catch her daughter the next time she’s thrown in the air.

 Well, now that comment has turned into a mom shit storm. Any advice I how I can repair the damage?

Signed, Sad Cheer Mom

Dear Sad,

 First, you should never ever joke about the safety of another child. I get it. You were angry. You had put up with this nonsense all year. Seriously, moms forming cliques and pecking orders based on what position their kid is on the cheer squad – totally cray. (Not as cray as the Texas woman who put out a hit on another cheer mom, but good mental health does seem to be in limited supply when dealing with some of these pom-pom parents.)

 As I see it your best course of action is do a group apology via email. Let all the moms know that your comment was taken out of context and that your daughter would NEVER intentionally drop a teammate nor would you EVER want her too. State how proud you are of your strong daughter, her teammates etc.

 Keep your fingers crossed that during the summer this all blows over. Based on the level of deluxe crazy I’ve seen with cheer moms I’m thinking something else will happen soon, like one of the moms wearing her daughter’s cheer outfit to the grocery store, (yeah, that happened in my town. There was a mom just shopping at Trader Joe’s wearing her kids cheer outfit. The only thing missing was the big ole bow) to get the heat off of you.

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Cheer Mama Drama

51b6aa786d507f5d7f172fd53578d800Dear Snarky,

I’m a mom to a 14-year-old daughter. High school cheerleading tryouts are in two weeks and it’s ruining my relationship with someone I thought was my best friend.

We both have daughters trying out for cheerleader and since the after school tryout camp began last week she’s not even talking to me. I’ve called and texted her and she won’t respond. It’s like our friendship has been put on hold until she finds out if her daughter made cheerleader.

Should I continue to reach out to her, confront her or just take her behavior as a sign that she never was a real friend? 

Signed, Cheerless

Dear Cheerless,

Too bad you can’t give this mom a herkie to the head. I’ll never understand grown women who get emotionally vested, to the point of what I think is a psychotic break, in their children’s extracurricular activities. That said, I’m from Texas so I know how seriously moms take cheerleading BUT freezing out a friend during the tryout process is immature which is why you probably feel like you want to flip her the bird or worse.

Resist that urge and take the high road. Yes, it stinks doing that and I know at times it may seem like you’re the only person on that road, but do it because here’s the perfect situation for you to role model to your daughter. By staying polite and friendly you are showing your child what a grown up acts like.

This doesn’t mean that you have to maintain your “bestie” friendship with this mom. It just means you have to act your age and that’s a cheer I think we can all get behind.

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