I’m a mom to a 14-year-old daughter. High school cheerleading tryouts are in two weeks and it’s ruining my relationship with someone I thought was my best friend.
We both have daughters trying out for cheerleader and since the after school tryout camp began last week she’s not even talking to me. I’ve called and texted her and she won’t respond. It’s like our friendship has been put on hold until she finds out if her daughter made cheerleader.
Should I continue to reach out to her, confront her or just take her behavior as a sign that she never was a real friend?
Too bad you can’t give this mom a herkie to the head. I’ll never understand grown women who get emotionally vested, to the point of what I think is a psychotic break, in their children’s extracurricular activities. That said, I’m from Texas so I know how seriously moms take cheerleading BUT freezing out a friend during the tryout process is immature which is why you probably feel like you want to flip her the bird or worse.
Resist that urge and take the high road. Yes, it stinks doing that and I know at times it may seem like you’re the only person on that road, but do it because here’s the perfect situation for you to role model to your daughter. By staying polite and friendly you are showing your child what a grown up acts like.
This doesn’t mean that you have to maintain your “bestie” friendship with this mom. It just means you have to act your age and that’s a cheer I think we can all get behind.
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