Dear Snarky,
I just found out my fiancée bought me a fake engagement ring. Technically it’s not a fake diamond but it’s definitely not a real mined diamond.
After hearing Lala Kent from “Vanderpump Rules” talk about how she found out her engagement ring was really a cheap discolored diamond that had been treated to turn it white I got curious about my engagement ring.
It’s three carats and exactly what I wanted. But I’ve always been suspicious about how my fiancé afforded the ring. So, my mom and I took it to a jeweler for an appraisal and found out that it’s a “lab grown” diamond. I didn’t even know that was a thing.
When I confronted my fiancé, he said it was still a diamond because the jewelry store told him the diamond was made from diamond seeds and was grown in a lab using the same methods that make real diamonds.
What a bunch of crap. He should have asked me if I was okay with a “lab” diamond before he went and got a ring. The only thing I do know right now is that my fiancé lied to me and I’m about ready to call off the wedding because I think this totally speaks to his character or as mom says, “lack thereof.”
Signed, No Fakes for Me
Dear No Fakes,
Well, thanks to your letter I just went down the rabbit hole of lab grown diamonds and it’s fascinating. According to everything I read, lab-grown diamonds chemically and visually, are the same as mined diamonds. The main thing that’s not the same is the cost. A diamond from a lab can be more than 50 percent cheaper than a mined diamond.
Now let’s get to the point of your letter – calling off the wedding. My advice is at the very least you should pause it. Why? Because I think you need time to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself these hard questions.
1 – Did your fiancé perhaps feel pressured to buy you a big diamond?
2 – Is this the only way he could have afforded a ring?
3 – Would he of been fearful of you saying no to marrying him if he didn’t present you with a three-carat diamond?
4 – Why are you so invested in the size of the diamond?
5 – Will your marriage be free from your mother butting in? (Seriously, did she really need to go to the jewelry store with you?)
I’m not saying your fiancé shouldn’t have had a “hey what do you think about a lab grown diamond” conversation with you but I also think you sound like a woman who’s not ready to endure all the ups and downs and hard work of married life.
If you disagree with me and think that you are indeed ready for marriage then I suggest, since you are displeased with the ring, that you tell your fiancé to return it and that a gold band for now is just fine. You can even add that you’ll get a “real” three-carat diamond later on down the road when you both can afford it.
Something tells me there’s no way you’re going to be able to do this and that’s why you need to put this engagement on ice.
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