Dear Snarky,
I’m confused what is going on with my fiancé right now. He keeps on pushing back our wedding date. I’ve been engaged for going on three years due to his inability to make a decision with me on when we’re getting married.
I don’t get it. We had always planned to have a very small wedding so it’s not like it’s a money issue. Plus, my parents want to pay for my wedding. So the cost to him is going to be zero. I just gave him a bunch more dates to consider but whatever option I offer up he shoots down.
My mother says I need to “read the handwriting on the wall” and break the engagement but she never liked my fiancé much so I feel her advice is not very open minded. What do you think?
Signed, Ready to be a Bride
Dear Bride,
I’m going to give you the exact same advice I would give my daughter. This whole marriage thing (ahem) doesn’t look good. I say this because it certainly sounds like you fiancé is finding every reason he can to postpone your wedding.
This is when you need to quit laying in bed at night re-examining everything he says, second guessing his feelings towards you and hemming and hawing and just ask your fiancé the hard question – Do you still want to still marry me?
If he says yes then follow up with, “Okay, then is a fall wedding okay with you?”
If he can’t answer this question with another enthusiastic HELL YES and proceeds to make excuses then I think you know he’s doesn’t really want to marry you.
For sure he may like or love being with you but he does not want to make a life long commitment to you.
I suggest breaking it off with him pronto. You gain nothing but misery and disappointment staying with a man who not only doesn’t want to marry you but also doesn’t have the stones to be honest with you about his feelings and instead throws up one excuse after another.
What your fiancé is doing by continually postponing your wedding is cruel and not the sign of a quality human being.
Hear me loud and clear on this – You. Deserve. Better. And right now being single is infinitely better than spending anymore time with this man.
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Wynn Butler is a newbie dance mom and, honestly, she hasn’t exactly been receiving rave reviews for her skills. Blinging out costumes and being your child’s glam squad are not exactly her strong suits. But at her daughter’s first national competition Wynn is ready to prove herself.
What she hadn’t planned for is being forced to share a hotel room with her least favorite person in the whole world – Jacardia Monroe, a mom who’s had two tours of duty at a spray tan detox clinic.
While Wynn attempts to survive the roommate from hell and cheer on her daughter, she stumbles onto a murder. Stuffed in a dance bag backstage is Kingston Reeves, a renowned competition judge. Sitting right next to that dance bag is Jacardia.
When both women became “persons of interest” in the case, Wynn decides it’s time to do some serious snooping to see who at the competition had a motive to kill the dance judge.
Rallying her best friends to help her, Wynn discovers a wide swath of suspects from the Instagram/influencer mom who brings a professional camera crew to follow her at competitions, to a crazed former ballerina turned combative dance mom. Then there’s some mothers who have a revealing and secret side hustle. #TaterTotToe. But none of the above surpasses the sparkle of the glitter gang. . . a cadre of moms who are addicted to rhinestoning costumes and perhaps even murder.
As Wynn gets closer to finding out who the killer is she might be one step-ball-change away from death.
Snarky in the Suburbs 