I recently found out that my husband, who works in retail, had a skinny mirror put in our bedroom over a year ago. This explains why I always loved how I looked at home and then wondered why I didn’t look so great when I was out shopping.
I’m so mad at my husband and I feel betrayed his dishonesty. I seriously don’t know if I can get over this. He says he did it to give me confidence and that it’s “not really that much of a skinny mirror” and I’m “making too big of a deal out of it.”
Should I forgive him or go through the rest of our marriage questioning everything he does for me from now on.
Signed, Apparently Not So Skinny
Dear Not So Skinny,
Let’s break this bad boy down, and just to clear I’m talking about the problem not your husband, and look at this issue from the misguided male perspective. Your husband might have wanted you to see yourself through the eyes of his love – i.e. you’re so perfect. He might also have wanted start your day with a smile or I don’t know I’m struggling here – maybe he just wanted to silence the demons in your head, that we all have, that tell us we’re not good enough.
Whatever the reasons I don’t see how it came from a place of meanness. I think, because we’re talking about the guy brain here, your husband probably thought he was showing his love.
I would suggest, and I know many people are going to disagree with me, that as a couple you both press the “reset” button and get over this by vowing to never, ever resort to any forms of deception in your marriage again.