Dear Snarky – I’m Skinny Now and I Think My Girlfriends Hate Me

Screen Shot 2016-01-06 at 9.00.07 AMDear Snarky,

My diet is breaking up my friendships. About two months ago I went on a clean, plant-based diet – no sugar, no gluten, no meat and slowly I’ve noticed my friends dropping me. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when I was excluded from New Year’s Eve plans. My feelings are really, really, hurt. Do you think my girlfriends are jealous of my weight loss or just intimidated by my healthy choices?

Signed, Getting Skinny

Dear Skinny,

You’re going to have to ask yourself some tough questions. First, are these women real friends? Because I doubt good friends would dump you because you’re losing weight. In fact, the opposite would occur they would be proud of you and encouraging.

Two and think carefully before answering – Are you being a food Nazi –  critiquing and judging everything your friends eat and drink? If you’re calorie shaming or broadcasting the carcinogen levels of everything your buddies put in their mouths than I’m guessing  you’re making them feel so uncomfortable they don’t want to be around you.

Maybe these girlfriends were more drinking buddies than besties? Maybe they think you’re a now skinny pain in their backside? The only way to really find out what’s going on is to sit down and talk with them.  Yep, at first, it’s probably going to be an uncomfortable conversation, but it sounds like you’re up to the challenge. And if it turns out they aren’t really true friends throw back a kale smoothie and go out and make some new ones.

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5 thoughts on “Dear Snarky – I’m Skinny Now and I Think My Girlfriends Hate Me

  1. WTH says:

    Great advice because I would bet good money that this woman is terrorizing her friends and being a buzz kill with nutritional advice. I dropped a friend who went almost food free because all she could talk about was what she wasn’t eating. Who wants to be around that?

  2. Abby says:

    Maybe her friends are jealous? Maybe this girl was the “chubby” friend and now they’re freaked out that she is getting more attention than they are? I’d find new friends asap.

  3. Beth Ellison says:

    I’m a certified trainer and I see this kind of behavior a lot. Friendships can change when the former fat girl becomes healthy, gains confidence and finds her voice. A lot of times her personality even changes and what she used to put up with she no longer will. I’d say about 70% of the time those type of friendships end.

  4. Meghan Hamilton says:

    It’s natural to want to talk about something as important to you as a major change in your diet. But it can definitely be tiresome to people who have no interest and may take it as a judgement on their own eating habits.

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