The Case of the One Upper

dear_snarky_logoDear Snarky,

 I need your advice about how to handle a person who is a constant one upper. This woman drives me crazy no matter what you say, what kind of story you’re sharing she’s got to get in there and one up you. Don’t tell me not to talk to her because believe me I avoid her as best I can but she always seems to insert herself into any and all conversations. Help me before I punch this woman in the face.

 Signed, Okay I wouldn’t punch anyone but I’m really frustrated.

Dear Okay,

The One Upper is a blight on any conversational landscape and I fear their numbers are growing.  Adding to the problem is this personality type also exhibits “Know It All” syndrome so no matter what you say this person knows more than you and has a better story.

My advice is two-fold; if the One Upper is a co-worker try to have any conversations with other work buddies outside the office or via text or email that way you’re protected from the One Upper interruptus. I know you maybe thinking this is crappy, non confrontational advice but trust me today’s one upping co-worker could be tomorrow’s boss so you’ve always have to be mindful of covering the old backside.

If the One Upper is an extended family member it’s your duty to tell them they have a problem. Just like we count on people we’re related to give us a heads up on things like exceedingly long nose hairs it’s also required that you intercede for the rest of humanity and tell the One Upper to stand down and shut it. They need to hear it and maybe more than once. Trust me a grateful nation thanks you.

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