Dear Snarky – How Do I Tell My Husband Date Night Sucks?

dear_snarky_logoDear Snarky,

Is it wrong that I hate Date Night? I totally love my husband, but the whole Date Night thing is killing me.  I have three kids ages 4, 5 and & 7.  By Friday Date Night I’m exhausted, like don’t want to shave my legs exhausted. Add in picking up the sitter, getting everything ready for the sitter so I can leave the kids for a couple of hours, getting all dressed up etc and I’m about to cry. All I really want to do is collapse on the couch. Should I tell my husband how I feel? I don’t want to hurt his feelings or have him think I don’t want to spend time with him.

Signed, Date Night Hater

Dear Date Night,

Trust me you are not alone in your determined dislike of Date Night. Who thought up Date Night anyway? The Restaurant and Movie Theatre Marketing Associations. What most mom’s need is a “Leave Me Alone Night.”  A night where you can get in your pajama’s at say 6 o’clock, snuggle in your bed or on the couch and watch all those TV show’s you’ve DVR’d while eating Reese Peanut Cups and washing them down with wine or the adult beverage of your choice. That’s seriously great – right? 

When I had very young children I came clean with my husband about my aversion to Date Night and suggested instead of taking me out to dinner and a movie I’d love it if he took the kids instead. You know what that got me? Almost four glorious hours alone in my house. It was a win-win for him. He got to spend time with the kids and came home to a much happier wife. Sure, you need alone time with your husband, but you also need just plain old time alone. So, I suggest you tell your hubs how you feel and I bet he’ll more than happy to cut back on Date Nights in favor of a few very special Leave Me Alone evenings. 

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