Dear Snarky – Pokemon Go Away

Pokemon-Go-Full-Google-Access.pngDear Snarky,

I have a friend who is now calling me a stalker. We both have boys who are 9  and do a lot together. A couple of days ago I texted her about taking our boys out and doing Pokemon Go. She told me that she was already doing Pokemon as a family “team building” activity which I thought sounded weird, but whatever. THEN when I’m out with my son I see her with some other moms from school and their boys playing Pokemon. I parked my car to join them and I heard the mom, that I thought was my friend, whisper stalker.

I’m hurt and angry for my son that he was left out of Pokemon Go and furious that I was called a stalker. Should I confront my friend about it?

Signed, Pokemom

Dear Pokemom,

First, I’m going to tell you what you want to hear. The mom who called you a stalker is a jerk. Now get ready for some hard truths. I’m afraid the problem might not be all  the other mom’s fault. I could be wrong here, but you seem awfully needy and I’m going to guess that possibly you’re more upset that you weren’t included than the fact that your son was left out. So ask yourself why did you feel the need to join up with a group when your friend had fibbed to keep you away? Why didn’t you just keep on driving and have a blast playing Pokemon Go with your son and be done with it?

Attention mothers everywhere you don’t have to do everything in groups. It’s okay and a lot of times preferable to enjoy your child’s company without a gaggle of other moms around. Think back to your childhood did your mom coordinate everything you did to such an extent that each outing was a like a mother/child mixer?

My advice is to get over being called a stalker. Yes it was mean, but who cares. This woman doesn’t sound worth you expending anymore energy on. The fact that you now know this is a blessing. You need to focus on appreciating the things you can control like spending one-on-one time with your kids and not worrying about what everyone else is doing.

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4 thoughts on “Dear Snarky – Pokemon Go Away

  1. Sammie says:

    Great answer and great questions. What did the mom think was going to happen once she joined up with a group that didn’t invite her? I love that you told her to enjoy her kids.

  2. Prisicilla says:

    In my opinion nothing is worse than a pack of moms who do everything together because they never learned how to enjoy their own company.

  3. Kathryn Scalise says:

    Dear Pokemom,

    Remember middle school? Remember high school? This is like Mean Girls on Steroids. Eleanor Roosevelt said: ” No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” So withdraw your consent and live your life well and show your child that he has the “Bestest mommy in the whole wide world” because she doesn’t depend on other people to make her feel good about herself. She’s good on her own two feet. AND maybe there is another mom who isn’t part of the clique du joir that you could have a more genuine conversation with. This is not a contest.

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