Dear Snarky,
I’m so angry and sad for my daughter right now I don’t know what to do next. She got married three weeks ago and had just the most beautiful wedding. It was a fairytale. After the wedding she and her new husband left for their honeymoon in Cabo San Lucas.
On day three of their honeymoon her husband told her that the marriage was a “mistake” and that he “just couldn’t do it.” He then abandoned my daughter at the resort. He just up and left.
My daughter was so distraught that my husband and I both went to Cabo to get her and bring her home.
Now after getting my daughter slightly calmed down I’m thinking about other things like can I send a bill to the groom for the wedding? He had to have known that he didn’t want to marry our daughter and he should have backed out and not gone through with the ceremony.
The least he or his family should do is reimburse us for a wedding that’s now being annulled. I’ve got Excel spreadsheets printed and I’m ready to do this but a close friend told me it’s a bad idea.
What’s your take on this?
Signed, Mother of the Bride
Dear Mother of the Bride,
Honestly, I do think the groom, at the very least, owes your family some monetary compensation for the cost of the wedding. What he did was next level horrendous. He didn’t just have a sudden epiphany in Cabo that he, oops, doesn’t want to be married. You know he’s had to have felt that way for a while and he should have summoned up the courage to end it before he walked down the aisle.
Also, let’s get real, you’re angry, with good reason, and one way to process that anger is to send this loser a bill. I would also include in that bill the cost of hiring a person to oversee returning all the wedding gifts. Because, yes, that needs to be done and I don’t think your daughter should have to single handedly manage what is going to be a very painful task.
And I wouldn’t just “send a bill.” I would send a bill from an attorney that way you’re letting your son-in-law for three whole days know that you mean business.
Now, all that aside you know deep in your heart that your daughter not staying married to this man is a blessing. It’s hurtful as hell right now but in time your family will be overjoyed that she is free of a man that wasn’t deserving of her love.
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