My husband has “tentatively” given his parents’ permission to move in with us. We don’t live in a large home. It’s just three bedrooms, two baths and we have two kids, two dogs, a cat and a rabbit. I also don’t have the greatest relationship with my mother-in-law – a pushy know it all who never has a nice word to say about anyone. My mother-in-law also said they would need to take our bedroom since it’s on the ground floor and they don’t want to climb that many stairs to the second-floor bedrooms.
It’s not like my in-laws can’t afford their own place. They just sold the home that they lived in for 40 years for almost a million bucks! But they told my husband they want to wait until the housing market “cools off” so they can “get a better deal on a house.” That’s why they want to move in and “invest their windfall.”
I will lose my mind if they live with us. I need you to help give me a backbone so I can get out of this.
Signed, Freaking Out Right Now
Dear Freaking Out,
Sure, I’ll give you a backbone by scaring you straight. If your in-laws are moving in until housing prices come down say hello to them living with you all of 2022. I consulted with my favorite realtor, Shelli Jaye, and she said housing prices aren’t expected to fall until next year at the earliest.
So, imagine sharing a bathroom with your father-in-law for a year and now think about dealing with your mother-in-law’s daily passive aggressive parenting “suggestions.” Then, there’s the issue of how your marriage might not survive this because all your anger and frustration about the situation will be directed at your spouse. The one who “tentatively” gave them permission.
You need to figuratively slap your husband up the side of his head and tell him his parents moving in would be a marriage buster. Then share that it’s totally unacceptable for his mom and dad to bunk with him since they are sitting on almost a million dollars minimum. For the love of all that is holy they can afford a rental and that is where they should perch until the housing prices drops.
If your husband refuses to understand this then you’ve got bigger problems than his parents wanting to move in and I would start thinking about having your spouse move out.
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